Have you ever decided to take a job, buy a house, start a relationship with someone, only to wonder later if you did the right thing?
I have, too.
I’ve often asked myself if I’m doing the right thing by going after my dream—writing.
Writing is very subjective. Ten people can read something I’ve written, and I’ll get ten different opinions. Some will think it’s good, others will think it stinks. Then there are those who may think it’s the best thing they’ve ever read (okay, so maybe that was wishful thinking).
But, writing something a lot of people will like is not the hardest part of being a writer. The hardest part is overcoming the doubt in my head.
I believe God has a plan for me, and that plan includes being a writer. A lot days, I wonder if I’ve heard Him correctly. Am I really doing what He wants me to do?
Ask yourself that question enough times—especially when you aren’t seeing the results you expect—and you will feel like you took a wrong turn somewhere.
I start to doubt.
Not long after the doubt sneaks into my head, a little voice whispers, “You’re an idiot for believing you can be a writer!”
Next stop—Quit City.
So, how do you overcome doubt and keep going?
Let me take a moment to be honest with you. Don’t think it's ever going to be easy. I still doubt things sometimes, but I work through it much quicker than I did before. I remain much more confident in my decisions these days and I sleep much better because of it.
Now, I’ll tell you what I do—and it works.
First, I pray about it. I ask God to give me confirmation that I’m heading in the right direction (peace), and an uneasy feeling if I’m not.
Then, I talk it over with at least two people I trust. If I get a good feeling from those people, I’m probably doing the right thing.
A couple of warnings: Don’t talk to too many people. A lot of opinions only make things more complicated. Also, don’t ignore what they say if it isn’t what you want to hear. You’ll regret it if you do.
After that, I try to recall similar experiences. I reflect on anything from the past that may apply to the decision I am trying to make. What did I learn from those times?
Now, for the final step…I do a gut check. Since I’ve been praying through the entire process, I’m trusting God to show me if I’m missing something. He’ll give me a feeling of peace if I’m going the right way.
When you’ve done these things, pull the trigger and don’t look back. When the doubt creeps in, you’ll be able stare in down with confidence because you did the right things before you made the choice. You'll feel much better about what you have decided to do.
Give it a try and let me know how it works for you. Also, share a time with me when you did something similar. Did you feel better about the decision? Did it turn out that the choice you made was good or bad?