birds of a feather
I'd heard that old saying many times growing up. Unfortunately, like so many other things I heard, it went in one ear and out the other. We have a tendency to dial out clichés and good advice in general. After all, something so easily acquired can't be worth much, can it?
Well, perhaps it's worth more than I first thought.
Relationships come in many shapes and sizes. Some are better than others, some we have whether we enjoy them or not (relatives come to mind), and others come and go. Regardless of who it is or the nature of the relationship, one thing is certain, the people we surround ourselves with play a major role in defining who we are as a human being.
However, when it comes to the people in my circle of trust, it took a long time for me to realize that I was not cursed by bad luck, I wasn't drawing the short straw, and God wasn't pulling strings to make sure my life remained a miserable existence.
Simply put, I was my own worst enemy. I was the one choosing with whom I would spend my time and with whom I would not, be it friends, girlfriends, business partners, or even people at Starbucks.
As difficult as it is to admit, I was to blame for my relationship woes.
Yes, it's true that birds of a feather really do flock together.
When I created The Desert Walker, I intended to write about the challenges and struggles Christian men and women face in real life, day in and day out. Just prior to launching this blog, I wrote down more than thirty topics I wanted to cover. However, after looking back over previous posts, I realized only a few of those original ideas had been explored. So in the months ahead, this blog will take a different tone as we dive deeper into the daily life of the struggling Christian. Rather than trying to explain what that means, I’ll let you find out for yourself.
My wife and I got into a conversation the other day about how much my life has changed in the last several years. I have undergone a major (and much-needed) overhaul. Of all the things I have changed, the way I make decisions is perhaps the most significant. I’ve had my share of “what were you thinking?” moments, and looking back on some of my poor choices have left me wondering why I ever did some of the things I did.
Career and relationships are probably the two areas of my life in which I have struggled the most and I’m not alone. Why does it seem like we have to make so many bad choices before we start to figure things out?
As Christians, sharing our beliefs and faith with others is something we’re not asked to do, but something we’re required to do by Christ himself. We do this hoping others will embrace him and have a life beyond the one we know. We do it so they will learn who Jesus is, what he stands for, and to give them hope unmatched by anything here on Earth.
But sharing our faith is not something to be taken lightly. It bears a responsibility that should be handled with care. Yet, there is a group of Christians who aren't being careful and it’s damaging the reputation of God and his church. I call them “Irresponsible Christians”, and today's post is for them.
I know what an Irresponsible Christian is because I have been one. I remember times when I was quick to judge and condemn those who chose not to believe as I do.
I don’t know about you, but a lot of people have made me angry. I’m not talking about just being upset with them for a little while—I mean being angry to the point of almost hating them.
Yeah, I’ve heard you should forgive and forget, but quite honestly, I never thought that was realistic. Maybe it’s the right thing to do, but it’s also one of the most difficult.